Truth My Kids Will Know - Male and Female

Lie # 20 - "Gender  Is Fluid"

When I first taught this series, I touched on this topic as an issue of clarifying roles. The lie at the time - which was really just a few years ago - was that "gender equality" meant there were no individual roles for men and women. Back then, we were being told that, since men and women are equal in value (something everyone in this country agreed with), then there should be no distinction in the roles that they played.

That was the lie back then - and how I miss those days! 

Within about five years, that lie has shifted from gender roles to the idea of gender identity. Now the lie is that the terms "man" and "woman" are as changeable and fluid as how you feel.

 - "How do you identify yourself?"

 - "What pronouns do you prefer?"

After we lost the obvious value found in distinct roles for men and women...we quickly moved into questioning the very concept of man and woman.

Now we see our society destroying its own kids' lives...hopelessly confusing them about who they are.

 - Parents of newborn children are refusing to call them "boys" or "girls" - claiming that the child will decide for themselves later on in life.

 - Kids as young as three years are being allowed to "identify themselves" as male, female...or as something else completely. 

 - Parents are making permanent decisions for their kids based on the child's momentary emotions - decisions like putting them on puberty blockers and even setting them up with mutilative surgery. Make no mistake about it: these are irreversible actions that will affect their bodies for the rest of their lives!

 - Other parents are in a struggle with their local governments, fighting to keep custody of their children after refusing to play along with the delusions of the day. Believe it or not, some parents are being branded as "abusers" in the legal system because they had the audacity to insist that their boys are actually boys and their girls are actually girls.

And what's worse: If anyone else dares to expose these confused kids to the truth, or even voices their disagreement, then that person is accused of being "hateful" and "transphobic". 

Listen to me, I'm not "phobic" of a man who believes he's a woman...I promise you that I'm not afraid of them. Also, I don't hate them for what they choose to do. Their decision doesn't really affect me one way or the other. My heart does go out to them...I wish I could help them come to see the truth! It's sad to me that they can't see how wonderfully made they are; designed by a Creator that loves them!

No, I don't hate anyone. But I do have a big problem with anyone that says I am not allowed to disagree with them. You say that the sun is green all you want to - and I won't hate you for it, but I will disagree with you. What right does anyone have to try forcing me to agree with them? Is it right to call me "hateful" for saying someone's made a wrong decision?

Even if you disagree with the point I'm making here...shouldn't I have the right to articulate that point?

"Made Them Male and Female"

There are plenty of other writers out there that are pointing out the damage caused by this ideology. There are other writers that do a great job exposing the logical, biological, and factual flaws with the belief in a fluid "gender spectrum". There are also writers who do a phenomenal job advocating for traditional family values and for the protection of the most vulnerable among us.

I'll leave the logical and statistical cases to them. I urge you to educate yourself on both sides of this issue. (Like it or not, you will soon be forced to stand on one side or the other. It looks like neutrality will not be an option much longer.)

But I believe that one of the best arguments I can make for identity as born is by pointing out our Creator's original intent. 

On the sixth day of creation - after God had created the heavens, the earth, and everything that fills them - He decided that creation was ready for His masterpiece. Remember, everything up to this point was created by God's Word. But for His final work, God wanted to get His hands dirty. He wet down some dirt and began to shape it into a body. In some ways it was similar to other creatures, but in others it was very different. When He was finished shaping every detail with His own hands, there was an intricately-designed, perfectly-formed, lifeless body of a man laying on the ground.

Genesis 2:7 - "And the LORD God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living being."

This wasn't a man because he "identified himself" as one - he wasn't even conscious yet! What was it that made this a man? Well, at this point it was only his anatomy. 

After God formed this body, He then stooped over and breathed into him. This is when man became a "living being" - or literally a "living soul." This man became more than just a physical creature, but a spirit-being just like his Creator. God's entire nature was now reflected in him - Adam was made in God's complete image.

But there was still more work for God to do. It wasn't "good for man to be alone."

God already knew what He was going to do - but He wanted Adam to recognize the need first. He formed individual animals out of the ground and brought them to Adam, who then gave each of them their name as he saw them. But after a while, he must have noticed something. Genesis 3:20 says, "But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him."

In other words: Adam saw bucks and does, boars and sows, bulls and cows, stallions and mares...and he realized that all of these creatures had their mates. They were all paired with different, but equal partners. Then Adam looked around and must've wondered, "Where's my equal?"

When He saw the question in Adam's mind, God immediately put him to sleep and got back to work. He reached into Adam's body, removed a rib, and healed up the void. Then He set the rib down in the dirt and formed another (better-looking!) body around it. This was in one sense the same kind of body as the first, but also completely different from it at the same time. This one had some parts that the first one didn't have, and it also lacked other parts. God called this crowning achievement "woman". 

I used to think that God breathed into her the same way He breathed into Adam - but that was only an assumption on my part. The Bible makes no such statement, and now I no longer think that's what happened.

Here's what we do see: in Genesis 1:26 we read that God created male and female both to be like Him. So...if  I'm right, and God didn't breath His spirit into Eve - where did she get it? I believe it came out of Adam!

Think about this:

Adam was the complete reflection of God's own image when he was first created. God breathed His entire nature into the man. But when God removed the rib from him, He also took part of that nature out of Adam, and placed it into Eve. After this, Adam no longer reflected God's entire character...he was missing something. But when Eve came to him, the portion of the Divine nature that was removed came back with her.

This is how God designed it. Men and Women are not created to display the complete image of God by themselves. Men have a part in them. Women have a different part in them. But when they come together they perfectly compliment each other. God's whole nature is beautifully showcased in the marriage of a man and a woman!

Genesis 1:27 - "So God created man[kind] in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them."

Can you see the wonder in the way God designed this? Each gender created with it's own characteristics. Each gender has their own strengths and weaknesses. Neither of them are perfect on their own. But together, they show the world the "image of God."

Arguing With The Potter

Romans 9:20 - "But indeed O [human], who are you to reply against God? Will the thing formed say to him who formed it, 'Why have you made me like this?'"

Hopefully this isn't too blunt...but if you were born with the body of a male, you weren't trapped in that body. And if you were born with a woman's anatomy, you can't rightfully decide that you're actually a man. God designed your body. God intended you to be the man or woman that He created. Your responsibility isn't to identify what you want to be, but to grow into what you were already created to be!

I promise you, the majority of young people are confused right now about what it means to be a man or a woman. Not only do you have the normal confusions involved with puberty, relationships, and desires; but now you have an entire society that's completely lost their collective mind! At this point in history, the worst thing you can do to a teenage boy (that's already unsure about what a real man should be like) is to tell him that maybe he's not a man at all! Do you think that counseling him to discover his own "gender identity" is going to help him get his life in order? 

Why not try a different approach - one that at least acknowledges the logic, science, statistics, and history behind "Male" and "Female"? Instead of teaching our kids to run away from their real identity, why don't we go back to teaching them how to grow into it? 

 - Why don't we start affirming the masculinity of our boys, and teaching them how to be an honorable and respectable man?

 - Why don't we start showing our girls how to become strong women - marked by dignity and even modesty?

 - Why don't we start teaching the the two how to work together and compliment each other's strengths and weaknesses?

 - Here's a thought: why not get our schools, our politicians, and our society out of the way, and just let our boys grow up to become men and our girls grow up to become women...like they've done since the beginning of history?

In a culture that's bought into the lie of gender fluidity, and in a generation that's confused about what they are - my kids will know the truth!

They will know that God made them the way that they are! And they will grow up into confident, secure, and godly adults - raising their own boys and girls to do the same!